CANDYMACK ™: 08/01/2010

Monday, August 2, 2010

TREY SONGZ ‘PASSION,PAIN & PLEASURE’ COVER

LETS TALK ABOUT THE EX....... BY CHANEL.

What is it about that one particular “ex” that either makes your blood boil or your legs weak? They put us through so much shit, make us do things that compromise our self-worth and yet, we still run back to them. You bump into them at the mall and next thing you know, you’re exchanging numbers again. Come on over and watch a movie. Yes, I missed you. Yes, I missed us. Yeah, I have condoms. Yes, I still swallow. Want to know why? Because you’re lonely. Because we believe that they’re our “safety net”. Meaning, we don’t have to go through the “getting to know each other” process again. We’re under the impression that there’s some form of comfort there being that we’re already acquainted with each other. Mentally & sexually. We forget all of the bullshit they’ve put us through because we believe them when they say “I’ve changed“. Trust me, they didn’t change. The distance made you forget certain things. Like the way he put you down & told you you weren’t good enough for him. Or the way she used you for your money. Or the fact that he never introduced you to his parents. Or the way she always made excuses for her child’s father. They have recognized your vulnerability & took prey upon it. You need to remember why they are your ex in the first place before you even decide to take that path again. Most times, it happens right when you’ve broken it off with someone else. Instead of being alone, giving yourself time to heal & recuperate, you chose to run into the arms of someone who also hurt you before. Things are going to be good for the first few weeks, but ultimately, they are still no good for you. You can get good looks elsewhere. You can get good conversations elsewhere. You can get good dick/pussy elsewhere. Why only rely on that same person who has hurt you so much in the past? You think you can’t do better? You think there’s no one else out there that can treat you the way you deserve? It takes time. It takes reevaluating yourself. Give yourself time to think about what went wrong & the mistakes you’ve made. Once you realize that you can do better, you will. He or she will enter your life when you least expect it. You will be so relieved that you did not accept the 20% that you would have gotten, had you stayed with your ex. And that same “ex” will become the most unattractive person you know.

VIA CHANEL.COM